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← Building the Conversation

If you’ve got a child, chances are you’ve had this exact conversation at one point or another:

How was your day? Fine.
How was school? Good.
How was your test? OK.
Anything you want to tell me? Nope.

We all know that it can be hard to dig deeper. A common question I am asked is “How do I get my children to talk to me?” Not just simple talk, but deep, meaningful talk.

I came across a wonderful idea recently online – the concept of a “Mum and Me” (or “Dad and Me”) Journal. The idea is to have a book where you build a conversation, invite your child to talk to you about whatever they want – and leave it under the pillow of your child, to await their conversation back.

Some great conversation builders…

  1. If you could live in any other time period in history, when would you live? Why?
  2. What do you think we need to do more of as a family?
  3. What is one nice thing someone has said to you recently? One hurtful thing?
  4. When do you feel closest to God?
  5. What are your top three strengths? Weaknesses?
  6. What is one thing that has been tough for you to forgive? Why?
  7. If you had to spend the rest of your life on an island by yourself and could have only three things with you, what would they be?
  8. Who is the last person in your school you would want to trade places with? Why?
  9. When is the best time for you to do your homework? Why then?
  10. When we talk, do you feel that I really listen? Why or why not?
  11. What would you do with a million dollars?
  12. What does it mean to be a leader?
  13. Who, in your opinion, are the best role models for teenagers today?
  14. How do you think being a teenager today is different or similar from when I was a teen??
  15. Are there some things you feel you can't talk to me about? If so, why can’t you talk to me about them?

May God bless you as you “build the conversation” with your child/ren.

Chaplain Janice Pukallus.

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